If You’re Dwelling on the Past, Remember to Ask Yourself This Question

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I rewatched an older Gary Vee video today. In the video, he says he is going to start a show called “And?” where people call in with their problems and his response to every complaint is going to be, “And?”.

“Both my parents were crackheads”

Gary- “And?”

“My husband is beating me.”

Gary- “And?”

“I lost my job.”

Gary- “And?”

These are the real examples Gary stated and the first time I watched the video, I laughed, not because it was funny but because I was like,

“Wow, that’s so harsh!”

But it is also 100% true.

If I wanted to go there, mine would look something like,

“I got kicked out of my parent’s house at 18 and got pregnant 3 months later.”


“I’m raising my kids on my own.”


Boy do I want to go there sometimes, but I cannot stay in that place because it doesn’t do anything for me. It does not push the needle forward, in fact, it draws it back.

My sister and I sometimes talk about our childhood. It wasn’t horrendous, but like with any family, ours had its quirks– things we sometimes wish were different.

I think it’s good for us to talk about these things, but not excessively, there has to be a purpose to the conversation. It has to lead to

“Okay, so that’s what happened… now, what can I do?”

What Can I Do?

I can make a decision to write every day, I can do a daily podcast, I can exercise, I can eat healthily, I can build a business.

Nothing is stopping me unless I let it. I do these things because I want to go places in life and not be held captive by the past.

Everyone has their crap


It’s just a good question to ask.

So Gary’s video, I love it.

It’s all about overcoming those limiting beliefs and deciding to live in the present instead of dwelling on the past.


Thanks for reading ❤


Day 144






2 Responses

  1. William says:

    I love this article. That’s one question I don’t seem to ask myself most times. I will definitely start asking it to myself more often.

    It holds great power and allows one to not act like a victim, but instead a victor.

    • Aleesha Lauray says:

      That question brought a lot of things into perspective for me. Life is all about what we choose to do with it. Love what you said, we should act like victors, not victims.

      Thank you for visiting my blog William and for the comment =)

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