No Expectations: Why I Stopped Worrying About My Medium Stats

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No Expectations: Why I Stopped Worrying About My Medium Stats


I follow someone on Medium who does daily vlog-style videos on YouTube. 

Every morning, like clockwork I receive a notification from their YouTube channel. This probably happened for two weeks, until one day I finally opened the notification and watched the video.

It was pretty standard: Breakfast, working out, talking about client projects, yadda yadda. It wasn’t the most riveting content, but it wasn’t bad either.

When I scrolled down to check out the comments, there were none. All there was, was one dislike.

For some reason, this bothered me.

I imagined this individual working 5, maybe 6 hours a night to get that video out at 7 am. The next morning it’s a few views and then:

“Dislike.”

Thumbs down.

I gave a thumbs up to balance it out and went about my day.

Clearly, as he should be, this person was unfazed. I’m still getting notifications every morning.

 


 

That’s part of it though, right? This whole social media thing…putting ourselves out there.

Thinking something is awesome and throwing it out to the wolves just to be gobbled up. Having a sense but never knowing fully what the result will be…

It’s made me develop thicker skin.

When I first started writing on Medium, I didn’t care about claps, I couldn’t care about claps. There were no followers. I was basically writing to myself and had little to no expectations.

Later, I started to submit to some publications. A few of my articles did “well” and as I slowly started to grow, so did my expectations. When some of my articles didn’t perform as well, I felt disappointed. Sometimes it messed with my idea generation for the next article because I was thinking about how the last article performed.

I realized getting my emotions tied to how well or not well my posts were doing was ridiculous. A couple of weeks ago I lowered my expectations again. Back to the basics — it’s been freeing.

Last week, some of my posts didn’t perform as well they usually do. I checked a couple other accounts, saw their numbers were down too and figured it could be due to some changes Medium made. Maybe that was the case, maybe not.

I wasn’t overly concerned.

The numbers both matter and don’t matter. Overall I am making progress– it’s just a matter of persisting in the long game.

 


Thank you for reading! ❤

~Aleesha

 

4 Responses

  1. John Adams says:

    One of my hardest lessons to learn was not to worry so much about what people thought of me or my work.

    I love positive feedback — who doesn’t — but if I’m happy with what I did and it didn’t hurt anyone else, I’m content that I was true to myself.

    I’ve been a writer/editor/publisher my whole career. Now I’m transitioning from full-time employment to retirement and part-time consulting. I’ll soon start working on that novel that’s been in my head for about 30 years. So I may understand at least a little bit of the changes you’re making in your life.

    I think I know what you meant when you wrote about lowering your expectations, that you won’t be so concerned about not getting positive (or any) comments about your posts.

    At the risk of stepping over any boundaries, I have some advice based on a lifetime of experience: Don’t lower your expectations. For anything. Lowering your expectations for one thing (even getting positive comments) can start you on a path to lowering expectations for other things, and eventually to mediocrity.

    Even if excellence doesn’t always come, always expect it of yourself and every one else in your life. Always expect the next thing you do to be better than the last.

    Don’t. Settle. For. Anything.

    If your interviewing and conversation skills are as good as your writing, you’ll have a wonderful, and I hope profitable, career podcasting.

    I’m sure you don’t need any help as you move forward, but of all the things I’ve done the most satisfaction has come from coaching and mentoring. If there’s any way you think I can help, please let me know. You can find me on Facebook at /johntadams3.

    • Aleesha Lauray says:

      Thank you so much for your comment and encouragement John. I’m so glad to hear from someone with experience. I agree wholeheartedly with what you said and share your sentiments. You have brought to my attention that perhaps I should have worded what I meant by “no expectations” better. You are correct, it was more regarding my obsession with worrying about “claps” on Medium. Nevertheless, I’m thankful for your comment, it helps to hear feedback from an experienced writer. I also loved reading your advice,

      “Don’t lower your expectations. For anything. Lowering your expectations for one thing (even getting positive comments) can start you on a path to lowering expectations for other things, and eventually to mediocrity.

      Even if excellence doesn’t always come, always expect it of yourself and every one else in your life. Always expect the next thing you do to be better than the last.

      Don’t. Settle. For. Anything.”

      Yes! All the way…just yes to all of it–I need to post this up on my wall.

      I think anyone can use advice or help along the way and if I do think of anything, I will certainly contact you.

      Thank you for reading and for the compliments. =)

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