A few days ago, a friend of mine was griping because she hasn’t been successful at dating.
So far she has been on several dates with prospects from Tinder 😬. But, hey, I’m not judging, a lot of us have been there (on dating sites), including me. Though it’s been done, I do feel like it’s kinda hard to find a good match that way.
My thought process with using dating sites went like this…
“I’m a decent person so obviously, there must be another decent person out there,”
Despite all that optimism and for lack of better words, I would still run into a bunch of creepy weirdos.
At least this is what it was like a few years ago. I don’t know if it has improved, but it doesn’t matter, I’m not looking now. I’m in a great place.
The Mistake I Used to Make
With the small amount of “serious” relationships I’ve had, when they ended, I was always looking for someone to fill a void because I didn’t want to be alone. But…. sometimes aloneness is necessary for growth.
And sometimes if we allow ourself to be okay with being alone and stop looking for the next best thing, the best thing will come when we least expect it.
My friend from before, I told her maybe if she focuses on doing the things she loves, perhaps she will meet someone. I’m certainly not an expert, but she did sigh and say,
“Maybe you are right. I just need to focus on me.”
Everything great in my life has always come when I have let go and not tried to force it.
I think love is one of those things too, that’s why it’s called fall in love… like you tripped and it caught you by surprise.
My friend is a great person, so I’m sure she’ll find it soon enough. Until then, I might hear a few more Tinder stories, but at least they make for a good conversation.
Thank you for reading ❤